It’s about my husband’s senior brother who returned from abroad recently. I only heard of him when we were dating. A day after we got married, I spoke to him on the phone for the first time and he said he had sent my wedding gift through my husband. It was perfume and dresses that didn’t fit. I called and showed my appreciation to him. That was two years ago.
He came to Ghana recently and came to spend a week with us. I was happy to host him because it was the first time I was seeing him but he started giving me some vibe that got me conflicted. I didn’t know where to place what I was seeing.
He would meet me in the hallway and wink at me. When he comes to the hall, he would like to sit on the same sofa with me even when there are other empty sofas and he did that only when my husband wasn’t around. When my husband was around, he pretended he didn’t even talk to me.
One afternoon, I was in the kitchen when he came to stand behind me telling me how tasty my meals are and how he enjoys them better than any food he had ever eaten. He asked me, “Would you like to travel back with me? Life is better there and I will get to enjoy your meals often.”
He winked and tried to touch me inappropriately. I pulled away before his hand could land on my bum. He said sorry and left. It wasn’t the last time. I was in the hall one late night when he came to sit next to me. He was doing everything to touch me. When his skin touched mine, he said, “Wow, my brother is enjoying. This is soft and satisfying. Are you sure you don’t want to travel with me?”
Currently, he’s not living with us but whenever I post on my Whatsapp status, he comes and comments in a way I find it inappropriate. It’s either he’s talking about the softness of my skin or he’s complimenting me on my butt. Something like, “All this for my brother? This boy is greedy ooo.”
I get the innuendos and as a woman, I know when a man is hitting on me but my question is, should I bring my husband in at this stage or I should wait for a while? Is it even advisable to tell my husband about it? What would be the results if such a thing happens?
