WHY PEOPLE CHEAT IN A RELATIONSHIP
People will give you many reasons why they cheated on their partner but the fundamental fact is that cheating is a personal decision and it starts from the mind; what someone decides to do and how the person sees their current relationship and spouse.
When your partner sees you as someone they love and want to be with for the rest of their lives, they also have to make a decision on their body. Something many people don’t do.
They also have to accept that their body is no longer theirs but their partner’s and for that matter, they cannot do anything they want with their body or treat it anyhow without their partner’s concern.
If you have integrity, you cannot give to others what does not belong to them without the approval of the owner. It is same with marriage or relationship. Because of the love you have for the person, you treat your body well.
People who cheat on their partner, do not see their body as belonging to their partner. If you are able to say your phone is your personal thing, how much more is your body?
It is not who you are that prevents you from cheating on your partner. Being a husband, a wife, boyfriend or girlfriend is not enough to prevent you from cheating. It is about who you think you are. If you accept that your body belongs to your partner, there is no way you can give it to someone else.
In conclusion, “The wife is not the boss of her own body. It belongs to the husband. And in the same way, the husband is not the boss of his own body. It belongs to the wife” – 1 Corinthians 7:4 (NLV).
– Frank Edem Adofoli (Counselor Adofoli)
Counselor, ADR Practitioner, Conference Speaker, Author
CEO, The Marriage Consult LTD.
