Dear Maame,
I and my wife had a child before we got married. Before marriage, she brought her brother’s daughter (Nana Afia – 12yrs now) to live with her without informing me though I pay rent and her monthly upkeep.
A few months into Nana Afia’s stay, she started damaging things she laid hands-on with the excuse of unintentional. She also misuses her aunty’s perfumes and other stuff when she’s out for work.
There was a time my wife prepared porridge to feed my son so she left it in the kitchen to cool down. Nana Afia consumed the porridge. When confronted by her aunty without beating her, she ran away from the house. Leaving us moving from house to house and radio station to another in search of her.
We finally found her the next day at the bus station.
I asked my wife to send Nana Afia to her parents because she might run away again and that would be a serious threat.
My wife refused to send the child with the excuse that, my mother-in-law begged her to allow Nana Afia to stay whenever she attempted to send her to the parents.
Fast forward, to about 2 years now my wife said wanted to start a fresh egg business and it was loud. I gave her capital to start and the business is booming to date.
Now here is the new unhealthy behaviour of Nana Afia Tower
1. She steals the physical cash she found in the room.
2. She keeps money meant to be given to her aunty by her customers on credit.
3. She sells eggs in the absence of her aunty and spends the money with the excuse that it got missing.
I warned my wife not to allow her to go near the eggs but she wouldn’t listen.
4. Upon 20 exercise books bought by her aunty for her, her teachers complained that she doesn’t take part in class assignments, homework, etc. That she doesn’t have exercise books. My wife was shocked. Meanwhile, we pay her fees, uniforms, books, and daily school feeding.
Upon all these behaviors my wife is still keeping the child.
My wife recently requested for Ghc10,000 to boost the egg business. But due to Nana Afia’s canker, I told her I would never inject any capital into the business. Though I have more than the Ghc10,000 in my bank account. Because it seems she works for Nana Afia.
Secondly, I told her I would never go in search of the child in the future in case she ran away again from home. Because she brought her without my consent and refused to send her. I don’t know the agreement she had with her family before bringing her in.
